A couple of days ago I was talking to a friend named Josh. During that conversation he told me how he had started to hang out with a wonderful lady. They got along with each other very well, and he started to like her. He thought that the feelings were mutual, so he decided to ask her out on a date. She responded by telling him that she was very busy. She put off the date a few more times, always using the same excuse that she was too busy. Josh knew and understood that his friend is a busy lady, however he wasn’t sure if that was her way of telling him that she didn’t want to go out with him, or that she really was too busy.
Gentlemen, may I start out with one simple piece of advice: don’t try to attempt to understand us women. We are too complex for you to understand. That being said, what I am trying to get to with this whole situation that happened to Josh is that playing with someone’s emotions is not fair. Ladies, I know that we like it when a guy chases us, because that makes us feel important and like they really like us. The problem is that men are human, so they will get tired of all the chasing and will eventually move on, leaving you the way you started.
People’s feelings are sensitive so we have to be really careful when it comes to others’ emotions. Imagine yourself being put in that situation. Think for a second about the way it would make you feel not knowing if the person who you like is trying to reject you or is simply being honest with you about his or her life. Sometimes coming clean and letting a good friend know that the feelings are not mutual is not easy, especially when you know that you might hurt them, but in the long run it is better to be honest and tell them how you feel than to play the game of putting things off.
On the other hand, if you really are very busy like you told the person who asked you out, you should do your best to find a time to go out on a date and make up for the other times that you canceled. Just make sure that you are completely honest with the other person, and also that you both are on the same page. Don’t be sending out the wrong signals making your friend believe that there is more than a friendship going on. If one of you misunderstands the other, clear things up. A good friendship is always better than a bad romantic relationship.
