Mom,
Why is it that every date I go on is just like the last? The guy might be different, he might be funnier than the last guy or more serious, or cuter or whatever, but the dates we go on are always the same. Dinner and a movie, dinner and a movie, dinner and a movie.
Whatever happened to creativity?
Sincerely,
Bored out of my mind
Dear Bored,
I know how you feel and I hate to break it to you but after you get married things only get worse. I mean it. And the problem isn’t that the men aren’t creative; I think it’s that they just get a bit lazy. Sorry guys.
But the truth is we are lazy, too.
I mean it. When we keep going on dinner and a movie dates without speaking up, what’s the guy supposed to think?
Yeah, that we like them, so why not tell him what we really think?
In other words, when he asks what you would like to do, do you have something already in mind that you’ve longed to do, or do you spout out, “Oh, it doesn’t matter; what do you want to do?”
I think it’s important that we know the answer to this question. I also think it’s important to share our interests during the date; who knows what might be swirling in our date’s mind the next time around because we weren’t afraid to speak up.
Creating a date together is an awesome thing. I also like the idea of group dating. That way, if your date is as boring and as lifeless as a chunk of rock you have someone else to talk to.
Through the years I have gathered some of my best date ideas. Some of them I have experienced for myself, others have come by way of friends and family. Sometimes, all we need to spark life into our next great date is to be spurred on by someone else’s creative idea. Here are 10 to hopefully spur you on:
1. Have a date test driving cars.
2. Eat dinner in an elevator, at the airport, in the back of a pick-up truck. The menu should be simple like take-out from McDonald’s.
3. Roller-skate around the neighborhood.
4. Take a make-believe survey at the grocery store.
5. Visit the zoo. Draw pictures or take photos of the animals.
6. Play Monopoly in the mountains.
7. Blow bubbles.
8. Play the games you played, or your parents or grandparents played, as a kid…like hopscotch, jacks, kick-the-can, four square, etc…
9. Go ice-blocking.
10. See what you can get at the Dollar Store with only a dollar each.
