In a romantic relationship there are only two people, that is why they get the title of a couple. However, let’s not forget that each individual has his or her own friends, and sometimes those friends feel like they are part of the relationship as well.
Let’s make it clear. Your friends are not part of your romantic relationship with your boyfriend or girlfriend. The point of the relationship is not just about spending as much time as you can with the other person, but to actually enjoy the time you spend with him or her.
When it comes to including outside friends in your relationship, everything has a line, and that line has to do with respect. When you ladies ask your boyfriend to hang out with you and your friends, you are expecting a great time. You men expect to have a great time as well, but might be a little nervous because you want to see the other side of her and how she behaves with her friends. Most of the time the experience can be positive, and it can be repeated, but there are times when it can go downhill. And when it goes bad it goes awful.
Remember that the main thing that should always stay in mind is to not cross the line of respect. How would you feel if someone started to disrespect your boyfriend? Now how would you feel if those people disrespecting your boyfriend were your friends? What would you do or say to them? In most cases you would try to put a stop to it, and try to calm things down. However, that is not always the case. Sometimes people take sides, and there are times that the side that it is taken is the friends’ side, making the other person, in this case the boyfriend, feel bad.
Some people have the tendency to overprotect their friend, wanting the best thing for them, and that is totally understandable. But when it comes to a relationship, people should let their friends decide for themselves.
In this kind of situation people learn so much about each other, and especially the side that gets negatively affected. This is not a matter of who is right and who is wrong, and who did what. This is the time to realize who is in the relationship and who is out of the relationship. There are only two spots in a relationship, and those cannot be squeezed to fit more people. Nobody wants to ever feel left out, especially in a relationship.